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Not This Again.
Yes, that is where we often find
ourselves " back in the same place again after
having said again and again, never again!
And then the committees form in the head:
"We told you so."
"Back again, huh."
"Loser."
And then there is the thought that if people really knew
the real you they would not
like, do business with, hire, love or
whatever it is you'd like them to do with and for
you.
How do we get in these positions? Sometimes that is an
important question and
sometimes it is not. Sometimes trying to figure it
all out is just our ego trying to
rationalize something that we know is wrong. One day
in New York, I got out of the
Subway on 57th Street. I needed to go to some
street in the Mid-sixties. It was a
stop I'd been in before so I really was
not paying attention, with my mind more on
some project in my mind. So as I'm walking along in my
own world, at some point I
looked up to see what street I was on and I was on
49th. Obviously, you say, I'd
gone the wrong way. I found myself standing, looking
at that sign, mentally telling
myself I knew I'd gone the right way and giving
myself reasons for why I came out of
the subway the way that I did. Then I
Just cracked up laughing at myself. "Hey
brainiac " the sign says 49. You are going the wrong
way. Turn around." I became
very amused at myself for the way that I
tried to rationalize something that was so
obviously wrong. Why I went the wrong way is not
important.
On the other hand, if I find
myself, for instance, always scrambling to get my bills
paid regardless of whether I make a lot of money or a
little " that is something that
is a bigger problem over and above simply not having
enough money. Were that
the case, more money would solve the problem.
In order to have a better life with
more money requires a change of life-long
ways of doing things.
How great would it be to say " "never
again!" And be confident that were true.
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